The only thing which seems certain about this fall is uncertainty. While I’m confident there will still be yellow leaves, chilly mornings and random snow storms, fall 2020 brings up so many questions. How will schools in session impact us? Will our Covid-19 numbers rise? Will it all work out okay? I suspect we won’t experience the same level of quarantine we had in the spring, though I’m sad thinking about some of the outdoor activities I’ve enjoyed this summer will be harder to do in fall. Regardless of how fall 2020 does play out, there are a few things we can do to help us feel like we have some choices, even when so much stays out of our control.
Be kind to yourself.
We are still living through a global pandemic. This is not the time to add pressure or shame for the things which aren’t getting done. Celebrate what you’re doing and let go of the extras. If you are someone who is thriving in accomplishment right now – amazing – keep up the things which are working for you, regardless of what this is.
Lean into what worked for you this spring.
One of the best things I did this spring (and summer) was a short walk in the morning to help provide the feeling of heading into work, despite working from home. The days I didn’t do it, I felt gross and antsy by early afternoon. There are likely little things you did which worked for you, and these are things which will also help you cope this fall. Reflect on what these are for yourself, and keep up or bring these things back.
Create a cohort.
We need people. Creating your zone of safety with a few loved ones allows for our need of connection to thrive will still practicing physical distancing. This is a proactive approach where you can start to get excited about fall activities and dinner parties, knowing you can stare at the inside walls of someone else’s house as well. It will also be easier to set this up now, rather than after feelings of isolation creep in. If you live alone, this is huge! Please set up a safety zone and stay connected.
Move your body.
Sweating and moving makes such a difference in allowing our bodies to let go of stress, and we are all feeling stress these days. Find a way to move and give your body and your mind a break, releasing the stress in a way you enjoy.
Set your own boundaries.
Everyone’s comfort level is different right now. Everyone is also making the right choice for them. You get to decide what feels right for you and your family, and can gently and clearly communicate this with others.
As a Registered Psychologist, I have experience helping people with a variety of concerns including, but not limited to stress, anxiety, depression, self-esteem, parenting, and relationships. Together, we will use cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT), and collaborate to find the thoughts and actions creating obstacles in your life, test them out, and combat them to decide if they’re helping or hindering you. Most of all, I want to help you reach your potential, and make the way there a little easier.