Embrace the Process

We’re into the beginning of February, and it’s a great time to check in on everyone and their New Year’s resolutions. Regardless if you are knocking it out of the park, or your resolution hasn’t gone any farther than the words you whispered to yourself with the hope of a fresh slate for the year, I encourage you to check in and see if you’ve really set yourself up for success.

We have control over the process, rather than the finished product.

Let’s walk through a goal together so I can demonstrate what I mean here. Let’s say my goal is about having a stronger community – more people in my life, quality time and maybe even some new friends. We’re a month into 2019, and depending on how I’m feeling today, likely depends on whether or not I feel I have grown my community. Hard to quantify, right? Now, to actually set myself up for success here, let’s look at what the action steps behind the resolution are, highlighting our process.

Perhaps in February this means I want to initiate a social activity with a friend, and in March I want to text 5 people I miss. Another month I’ll go to a new activity and talk to someone there, or another month I’ll have people over for dinner, or tea, or initiate some conversations with colleagues. Any one of these is not necessarily a huge step. However, as a result of these actions I’ve actually built my community around me, whereas the goal felt a bit empty before, and hard to quantify.

What would you like to see different in your life? What action steps can we put in place for you to emphasize the process, the place where we actually do have some choice and control in what we would like to accomplish?


Karyn Zuidhof, Calgary Psychologist

As a Registered Psychologist, I have experience helping people with a variety of concerns including, but not limited to stress, anxiety, depression, self-esteem, parenting, and relationships. Together, we will use cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT), and collaborate to find the thoughts and actions creating obstacles in your life, test them out, and combat them to decide if they’re helping or hindering you. Most of all, I want to help you reach your potential, and make the way there a little easier.

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