February tends to put a lot of focus on romantic relationships, and though important, this can also be a great opportunity to connect with anyone who is important in your life. Further your own relationships, and make someone’s day!
1. Do something to make someone feel cared for and loved.
Take a moment to think about things which make you feel cared for and loved. Now choose a specific person you would like to connect with, and think about what you do to make them feel loved and cared for. Maybe it’s something you do often, or something you haven’t done in a while. Go ahead and do it! It’s likely something small like picking up their favourite treat, sending a card, or caring for them in some way.
2. Tell them what they mean to you
How often do we feel love or a deep sense of appreciation, and don’t let someone know what they mean to us. We know how good it makes us feel when someone shares the same with us, so go ahead and share your feelings. Write it down and they’ll love referring to it again and again.
3. Talk about your hopes and dreams
Yes, even if you’ve been married for 20 years. Our hopes and dreams tell a lot about us – the things we’re working towards and value the most. They also change with time and experiences, so go ahead and ask someone what is important to them.
Karyn is a Registered Psychologist, who primarily practices from a Cognitive Behavioural perspective. She received training from Dr. David Burns, and loves collaborating with her clients to find the thoughts and actions creating obstacles in their lives, and leading them through steps to test if these thoughts and actions are true and helpful.
References: Relationship experts Sue Johnson and John & Julie Gottman.