Resolutions and the holiday spirit abound around us in this week between Christmas and New Year’s (as well as sugar and turkey comas). As our coma’s start to subside, the typical January 1st questions start popping up. How long did it take for us to forget about last year’s resolutions, and what should we be asking of ourselves this upcoming year, 2016? It is important to accurately reflect on our past year. What took us by surprise? How did we deal with difficult situations? Where did we succeed?
How do we take our reflections about 2015, and use them to make 2016 fantastic? Some find it helpful to choose a theme for their year, reminding them they want to strengthen their connections, or increase their fitness level, or push themselves to say yes more often. We are all different, need different things, and desire to strengthen ourselves in different capacities. Some set resolutions, some don’t. Whatever you do, I encourage you to ask yourself the following questions and take time to reflect:
What are the things you find yourself wishing you had started months ago?
What are you excited about for 2016?
Who are the people you want to spend more (or less) time with?
Where are the places (and people) you want to visit?
How did you take care of yourself last year? Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually?
How do you want to take care of yourself this upcoming year? Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually?
Are you seeking more balance, connections, mindfulness, fun, craziness???
The most important part, is to make this work for YOU!
- Be clear on what you really want. Be specific, find ways to measure your successes, and revise when life throws you a curve ball. For more hints on making realistic goals, check out my past blog on SMART Goals:
- Leave things behind. You get to choose what you take into 2016 with you, decide who and what you really want in your life. You can choose to be done with certain arguments, habits, and patterns.
- Check in with yourself every month. Yes, every month. You might realize in February the plans you set are difficult, and in March be revamping them, rather than throwing them out the window completely. Choose the 1st of the month or a date of your choice. Set a reminder in your phone for the whole year.
Karyn is a Registered Psychologist, who primarily practices from a Cognitive Behavioural perspective. She received training from Dr. David Burns, and loves collaborating with her clients to find the thoughts and actions creating obstacles in their lives, and leading them through steps to test if these thoughts and actions are true and helpful.