how to manage a Christmas birthday

Having a birthday on a holiday can be tough, but if you get creative there are ways to keep both celebrations separate and special.

The hard thing about Christmas birthdays is that they pretty much start a month before hand, so trying to squeeze it in before Christmas doesn’t always work out the way we want it to.

Friends go on holidays, people start their Christmas shopping, and chances are, all your presents will be wrapped in Christmas paper. Here are some tips to help keep Santa from christmascoming to your birthday party:

  • Have the party in January – Having the birthday party in January not only gives people time to pack up their Christmas leftovers , but also allows time for people to get back from holiday vacations. We always do a small family cake on Christmas Eve for my son’s birthday, and then the big party in January.
  • Send out Birthday invites before the Christmas rush– Chances are, if you send out an invite in December, your card will blend right in and get lost with the Christmas cards. Slimmer chance of an RSVP which can make party planning a little stressful.  Sending them early gives people lots of time to plan ahead, which is nice for everyone.
  • Make it clear from Day 1- It’s important to discuss this with your family and friends so that everyone knows how important the separation is to you and the reasons why. That way everyone is on the same page and will be more supportive of your choices and expectations.


Now that you’ve prepared yourself and survived the Christmas rush, it’s party time! Throwing a child’s birthday party is a skill I definitely wasn’t born with. Through sheer determination and a lot of investigating, I came up with some helpful tools that make this easier for the parents, and more fun for the kids.

    • Keep it short –  A 2-3 hour maximum means that kids aren’t burnt out and can fully enjoy the party. It also means that parents will have an easier time bouncing back and Unexpected presentcooling the kids down after the festivities are over.


    • Less sugar – Having healthy tasty snacks to curb hunger before you bring out the cake will be much appreciated. That way, when it’s cake time, the kids will be able to pace themselves and will handle the sugar better.


    • Gift exchange – Every birthday, we take Ben to pick out all of the things that go into his birthday guest goodie bags.  When it’s time for the gift exchange, Ben gives the guests his gift bags when they give him his birthday presents. That not only teaches him the value of giving when he receives, but also gives him a chance to express his gratitude in a way that is easy to understand at that age.


    • HAVE FUN! – I would have to argue that this is the most important tip. Its really easy to feel like things need to be perfect,  ESPECIALLY when you’re the host. Remember that you’re surrounded by parents that have to do the same thing every year, so ask for help if you need it. The whole point of this is for everyone to have fun and enjoy each others company – which includes you. So take some deep breathes, center yourself, and have some cake!


I hope these tools for tackling the holiday birthday come in handy. I would love to hear your experiences and ideas so feel free to comment in the section below.
Merry Christmas!

carlaCarla Stamile

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